Did something change in dating since I had my last first date?

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I haven’t been on a first date since 2008… since that since I’ve dated one guy, married, then got divorced. But that’s not what this blog entry is about…

Did something change in dating since I had my last first date? I’ve tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder, while I am aware they’re not necessarily for finding the right one, I thought I might find one for even a minute. So it started with a whole bunch of NO’s that decided to jump way ahead and just put IT out there with a

{GRANNY, JUST IN CASE YOU’VE STUMBLED ACROSS A LINK TO THIS BLOG, NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO BEGIN FOLLOWING… EXIT THE PAGE NOW} …GIVING YOU A CHANCE, DON’T FOLLOW THE JUMP….

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#DickPic (Yep, that’s what you think it is… a picture a man sends you of his wiener…). Really? Sending articles like this to complete strangers? If I were to cash in on your offer, aren’t you worried about disease, death, and/or dismemberment? The internet is full of weirdos of all kinds.

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If you’re not horrified enough, how about the guy you actually give your number to who seems like he MIGHT be a decent human being? Nope, I was wrong again. This morning, while I should have been at church, I answered a text from an attractive man, 32, claims to be in a prominent position at a well-known company. I think, “this guy seems to have it together. He communicates, asks about me…why not?”. So I awoke to a message asking when he could see me. I was happy to have a decent-seeming man interested in ME (In my head: it’s been a while, I’m not my best me… happy to have man’s attention..). So I reply with my plans for the week thinking we might act like adults and set a time to meet up.

I was WRONG. His next reply:

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Huh? What? Seriously? I’m deflated. My immediate thoughts:

  • There are no decent men left in the world (fleeting thought, I do have hope, but again – not what today’s entry is about).
  • Do I project the image of a woman who would do such a thing? (Not hating on those who can/would. I am just not one of them… not saying that incase Granny is reading… just need more than a text to heat the stove if ya know what I mean).

My decisions based on these, and other, terrible-horrible-no good interactions:

  • I’ve deleted Tinder (for the second time). deleteTinder
  • 3 weeks after getting on Plenty of Fish I deleted that one.
  • I’m done, at least this week, forcing myself to “find a match” or date. I’ll do my best to leave it up to God’s plan. (Yes, I am aware I have mentioned “dickpic” and God in the same blog.)

Is it too much to find a man who might actually put in effort to know me before trying to get in my pants? That might be interested in ME, not just any ol’ gal with an available orifice? (because that’s what this says to me… Tinder is a modern-day #gloryhole).

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Thoughts?? GO!

#TinderIsAModernDayGloryHole #OnlineDatingBlows #NSFW #NSFG #DatingAfterDivorce #LifeAfter #LifeAfterDivorce #30YODivorcee #Divorcee #PickingUpThePieces #WTF #Seriously? #AreYouKiddingMe? #LookingForANiceGuy #ConfusedFace

Cheers to 2015 – This year I WILL hit my goals

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Happy Saturday Night – as you can tell, I am being super-awesome and staying in tonight. #Snark? Usually, but not this time.

I am proud of myself that day 3 of the New Year have just completed #P90X #CoreSynergistics. I feel great and am determined to lose my #Divorce weight, which is in combination with my #GradSchool weight. Stress and unbalance were a huge part of the past two years and I’m combating it now!

I want to be bikini-hot by May 17, which will be my 1-year divorce-aversary. It’s a goal of mine to spend it happy, on the beach, and in a bikini. I will celebrate my freedom, recovery, and my ever-growing #resiliency.

 How will I do this? Well, through food portion-control, sweat, and through surrounding myself with positivity. And I WILL lose 30lbs. Will I be a tiny stick, no, but that’s not my goal. I want to be healthy, and on this body that’s probably still thick. I’m cool with that.

Why? I want to get back to me and feel good again. I want my energy back. I want to be proud of myself and get back into cute clothes. Let’s be honest here, I want to look good naked. That’s why. FOR ME.

OK, now that’s those #goals have been published, I better stick to it.

What are your 2015 goals? Financial freedom? Increase, or diversify your income? Lose weight? Build muscle? Eat clean? Read more books? Do more professional development?

Whatever it is – write it down. Check on those goals every few weeks. Just because you miss it one week doesn’t mean you give up. Doing more is just that, do more than you did last year, last month, or last week.

We can do it! Cheers to 2015.

Share any of my goals? Join me for the next challenge group starting January 5. We can get you set up and in the accountability group asap!

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My experience with the 21-Day Fix

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Earlier this year I needed help to get off the rock and start losing the weight I had gained over turmoil of last year. Yes, I ate my feelings… whenever/whatever I damn well wanted. Between finishing grad school, marriage counseling and the decision to divorce, falling out of my moving truck and busting up my kidney, surgery on my foot unrelated to falling out of the truck (and all of that was in the fourth quarter alone!) I gained an additional 25lbs. Yes, stress and cortisol wreak havoc on your body and every ounce showed. Anyway, I needed help to get my eating under control while making it easy to take with me whether it was breakfast, lunch or dinner. I needed fresh foods readily available to help me cut the garbage, and excuses out of my life. The only one who could make that decision to change was me. 

Now, before gaining the additional 25lbs I was already overweight. I was out of control. As an inactive Team Beachbody I was looking to get back in health and fitness mode as I knew they could offer the help and support I so sorely needed. A few of my friends were raving about the “21-Day Fix” that was a workout program incorporating my beloved Shakeology, and making portion control easy. There was no “mulling it over” for me, no marinating on decisions, no hesitating. I needed this, and I needed it now. But, I hesitated when it went on sale and it was backordered. Stalled once again. But I didn’t let it get me down, I worked with what I had and cleaned out the pantry while I waited.

I started my 21-Day Fix program in March and did two rounds, 42 days, which helped me to lose 10lbs and to begin feeling like me again. I never lose weight quickly or easily, and those hideous stress hormones were, and still are floating around my body.

What I really think you want/need to know:

  • The workouts were more challenging than I expected, but it felt great
  • I was sore in the beginning, but good sore – not “hit by a truck / serious regret” sore
  • I love Autumn, the instructor – she’s a real woman, single mom, and knows how to push through adversity
  • The diet took prep work, but was so easy to follow. I felt great energy and was NEVER hungry, which is where I have failed in the past. I actually had to push sometimes to eat that last Green container, but I did it because it was delicious, and I knew I was doing something good for my body.
  • Will I do it again – YES. And I plan on making the eating plan MY lifestyle plan for food. 

What are the 21 Day Fix eating plan details?
 The 21 Day Fix Eating Plan is not a recipe-based plan like other Beachbody nutrition plans. Here’s how it works: Start by calculating a calorie level based on starting weight. Next, find the calorie chart that corresponds with the calorie level. This will indicate the daily allotment of Fix color-coded containers. From there, the Eating Plan shows a list of foods that can be eaten with each color-coded container. Then, just fill the containers with the foods from the list, up to the daily allotment of Fix containers. No required recipes. No required number of meals. No required foods or ingredients. If it fits in the container, it can be eaten!

My progress is slow, but it’s still happening. Right now I have moved on to PiYo, but am looking forward to getting back on the 21-Day Fix meal plan. I recommend the Challenge Pack as it includes Shakeology, any equipment needed, the portion control containers, and all guides needed to be successful.

I hope this helps you get on track too. I am here to support you in your goals, and I’d love to hear from you.