Did something change in dating since I had my last first date?

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I haven’t been on a first date since 2008… since that since I’ve dated one guy, married, then got divorced. But that’s not what this blog entry is about…

Did something change in dating since I had my last first date? I’ve tried Plenty of Fish and Tinder, while I am aware they’re not necessarily for finding the right one, I thought I might find one for even a minute. So it started with a whole bunch of NO’s that decided to jump way ahead and just put IT out there with a

{GRANNY, JUST IN CASE YOU’VE STUMBLED ACROSS A LINK TO THIS BLOG, NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO BEGIN FOLLOWING… EXIT THE PAGE NOW} …GIVING YOU A CHANCE, DON’T FOLLOW THE JUMP….

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#DickPic (Yep, that’s what you think it is… a picture a man sends you of his wiener…). Really? Sending articles like this to complete strangers? If I were to cash in on your offer, aren’t you worried about disease, death, and/or dismemberment? The internet is full of weirdos of all kinds.

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If you’re not horrified enough, how about the guy you actually give your number to who seems like he MIGHT be a decent human being? Nope, I was wrong again. This morning, while I should have been at church, I answered a text from an attractive man, 32, claims to be in a prominent position at a well-known company. I think, “this guy seems to have it together. He communicates, asks about me…why not?”. So I awoke to a message asking when he could see me. I was happy to have a decent-seeming man interested in ME (In my head: it’s been a while, I’m not my best me… happy to have man’s attention..). So I reply with my plans for the week thinking we might act like adults and set a time to meet up.

I was WRONG. His next reply:

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Huh? What? Seriously? I’m deflated. My immediate thoughts:

  • There are no decent men left in the world (fleeting thought, I do have hope, but again – not what today’s entry is about).
  • Do I project the image of a woman who would do such a thing? (Not hating on those who can/would. I am just not one of them… not saying that incase Granny is reading… just need more than a text to heat the stove if ya know what I mean).

My decisions based on these, and other, terrible-horrible-no good interactions:

  • I’ve deleted Tinder (for the second time). deleteTinder
  • 3 weeks after getting on Plenty of Fish I deleted that one.
  • I’m done, at least this week, forcing myself to “find a match” or date. I’ll do my best to leave it up to God’s plan. (Yes, I am aware I have mentioned “dickpic” and God in the same blog.)

Is it too much to find a man who might actually put in effort to know me before trying to get in my pants? That might be interested in ME, not just any ol’ gal with an available orifice? (because that’s what this says to me… Tinder is a modern-day #gloryhole).

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Thoughts?? GO!

#TinderIsAModernDayGloryHole #OnlineDatingBlows #NSFW #NSFG #DatingAfterDivorce #LifeAfter #LifeAfterDivorce #30YODivorcee #Divorcee #PickingUpThePieces #WTF #Seriously? #AreYouKiddingMe? #LookingForANiceGuy #ConfusedFace

All dressed up and nowhere to go. Pretty sure I’ve been stood up.

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All dressed up and nowhere to go. Pretty sure I’ve been stood up.

So now that I’ve admitted that, I guess it’s time to get over it. No tears shed. I am bummed as it would have been my first date since my divorce, which would have been a nice hurdle to jump no matter the outcome.

Today, we talked on and off for an hour, like real people on the phone, not texting. Made tentative plans to do something. And he says his work called. It’s been over an hour. Maybe it’s legit, maybe he’s taking an easy way out. Only time will tell.

QUE SERA, SERA. I’m putting my PJs on and going to eat frozen yogurt in front of the TV. I’m not removing my makeup, it looks too good. (much better in person:) )

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PS – at least this is at the end of a 50/50 year. I know 2015 has to be better.